Tuesday, July 11, 2006

Good advice

I heard a good saying "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results." I am my own worst enemy and it takes a long time for me to learn my lesson. I've been tilting at windmills all my life and it mostly just gets people mad at me.

I thought I would share that little saying. Today I'm going to ask myself, "what do I normally do?" and do the opposite. Which pretty much entails keeping my mouth shut.

4 comments:

Ann said...

My favorite saying along those lines is "Why are you pounding your head against the wall?" "Because it feels so good when I stop."

Anonymous said...

Good thinking,
That approach got costanza a job with the Yankees on Seinfeld. Proof positive it works ;)

Barb said...

I didn't know what to say to this yesterday. I sure hope one of my good friends does not take any vows of silence.

When I was in high school, I told my advisor Senior year who tried to help me with my depression how I wanted to never talk again. I was never so depressed to where I could not move or speak or anywhere close. But how I wanted to just shut down and escape the pressures of life. I told her that I wanted to never speak again so she had us sit there in silence. It felt pretty stupid and I could not keep it up for long. She felt that she had made her point, but I still thought being silent was a pretty good idea. Now I like to talk a lot! Too much!

annegb said...

LOL, Barb, not to worry. I don't think I could handle a vow of silence. But I'm letting go of a few problems by shutting up about them. Or a close reasonable facsimile to shutting up, talking less, if that's possible for me.

I actually tried this with my stepson recently. He's sort of abusive, an alcoholic, and I argue with him a lot. Last month I tended his two little girls.

He got out of his truck, griping and cussing at me because of a new gate that he hadn't done, he rambled, handed me the baby and I cuddled her and smiled and greeted my darling five year old. And he went on and then he got in his truck and left. I never said a word.

I thought it was quite funny how he had an argument with himself.

I'm a work in progress, not perfection.