Tuesday, July 11, 2006

Good advice

I heard a good saying "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results." I am my own worst enemy and it takes a long time for me to learn my lesson. I've been tilting at windmills all my life and it mostly just gets people mad at me.

I thought I would share that little saying. Today I'm going to ask myself, "what do I normally do?" and do the opposite. Which pretty much entails keeping my mouth shut.


Ann said...

My favorite saying along those lines is "Why are you pounding your head against the wall?" "Because it feels so good when I stop."

Anonymous said...

Good thinking,
That approach got costanza a job with the Yankees on Seinfeld. Proof positive it works ;)

Barb said...

I didn't know what to say to this yesterday. I sure hope one of my good friends does not take any vows of silence.

When I was in high school, I told my advisor Senior year who tried to help me with my depression how I wanted to never talk again. I was never so depressed to where I could not move or speak or anywhere close. But how I wanted to just shut down and escape the pressures of life. I told her that I wanted to never speak again so she had us sit there in silence. It felt pretty stupid and I could not keep it up for long. She felt that she had made her point, but I still thought being silent was a pretty good idea. Now I like to talk a lot! Too much!

annegb said...

LOL, Barb, not to worry. I don't think I could handle a vow of silence. But I'm letting go of a few problems by shutting up about them. Or a close reasonable facsimile to shutting up, talking less, if that's possible for me.

I actually tried this with my stepson recently. He's sort of abusive, an alcoholic, and I argue with him a lot. Last month I tended his two little girls.

He got out of his truck, griping and cussing at me because of a new gate that he hadn't done, he rambled, handed me the baby and I cuddled her and smiled and greeted my darling five year old. And he went on and then he got in his truck and left. I never said a word.

I thought it was quite funny how he had an argument with himself.

I'm a work in progress, not perfection.