Friday, June 02, 2006
Fuzzy Red Bathrobe questions and a tribute to Princess Buttgold
How many brothers and sisters do you have?
I have four living sisters, two baby sisters and a brother died. I also have two half brothers and two half sisters.
Are you close to them?
I love them all dearly. I'm only close to one sister now. Time and tide has made some changes.
Are you like them at all?
Oh, yes. We all laugh at anything, we're all scrappy. My sister's grandchildren can't tell us apart. They always come running up to me, calling Grandma! We all read, lots of things.
What is your birth order? Do you feel it affected you at all?
I totally believe in the implications of birth order. I'm the oldest and a true oldest person, bossy, caretaking, and assertive.
About Princess Buttgold: The other night when we had dinner with Shannon and Brian, Shannon asked Sarah about it and she said something like, "well, I'm spoiled and I think people should kiss my butt." That just broke my heart. Because she's not like that and I feel badly that she thinks I do.
She is, however, the quintessential youngest child, I guess. I'm a firm believer in birth order :).
The nickname evolved from my sister's Mexican roommate, who used to say of people, "he thinks his butt is made out of gold." Think Salma Hayek saying that. I loved the sentiment, because we all do occasionally get that misperception.
Sarah was the greatest blessing in my life and we just all adored her and spoiled her rotten. She was showered with positives and over-protected. When she became a teenager, the appellation "Princess Buttgold" sort of evolved because she did have things the other kids didn't. We had more money, less kids at home, that sort of thing. We got a lot of grief from the older kids because we always had sugared cereals, a rare treat for them.
But she's sweet and funny and kind. She's not mean and stuck up, like you would think. I feel that I contributed to her own negative opinion of herself, especially during the wedding of the year debacle and with my postings. Well, wedding are stressful and hers rivaled Princess Di's.
So this is my amends to my darling child and hopefully, a correction of perception. If she's Princess Buttgold, I'm Queen Buttgold.
These are a few pictures of her that I love. The one with the two little girls is a treasure. Keoke, one of the twins, died four years ago in an accident. The prom dress picture is a reminder of how Rowan, our little granddaughter, fell in love with Sarah in her dress. She thought her aunt was the real Sleeping Beauty. The other was taken at a Mother-Daughter function at church. And the flower one, a neighbor took that.
That is Sarah, a fountain of joy for all of us during some dark times. It's a heavy load, but somebody had to do it :).